I think that if he is accusing you of messing around then he is for sure! And just leave, just pack your stuff and run as far away as you can from this! I am married to someone like this, it’s horrible I’m on 4 anti depressants, I just wish I could take my kids and run as far away from this as I can, it demining, it makes you feel worthless because he called you worthless all the time, it’s just not a good situation to be in.