I’m going through this right now. My ex has cut off all contact.
She has untreated bipolar.
We met middle of October. It was very long distance. She was 3 hours away. We were seeing each other for two months until Dec 18th when she suddenly broke it off. I think she went on a date with another guy the night before. I’m pretty sure that’s why she broke it off.
But I stayed in contact for about three weeks texting a couple of times a day. Asking her to come back.
Then suddenly early in January she agreed to come back to me.
Things were brilliant for about four weeks. She came back saying she was all in, that all she was asking for was honesty and openness. That we communicate with each other about how we are feeling.
Then early in February I noticed a drop off in energy from her.
I kept going….but then she started buying concert tickets with friends/family and not inviting me. She started saying how busy she was and time to meet would be very limited.
On Feb 12 I got it into my head to see if she was on Tinder. So I set up a profile, literally not expecting to find her, and there she was. You can understand how that made me feel.
So I asked her if we were a thing. And she snapped. Attacked me. Told me we’d been through this and that I was being insensitive. She started saying she didn’t think this was for her. Threatening to end it because I asked her if we were boyfriend and girlfriend. She was very nasty to me.
When she said that I showed her the screenshot of her profile. She backed off a little but was very defensive and distant. She never apologised and still hasn’t.
After that she pulled right back. I was supposed to visit her for Valentine’s Day but she broke up with me in a text that day.
She blamed me for the argument. She said it was my fault. She has taken literally no responsibility for any of her words or actions. I was to blame. I was causing pressure and she needed to cut me out.
Since then I’ve tried to talk to her. To reason with her. Tried to reassure her that I’m there but she’s stonewalled me and blocked me on all messengers.
She has been very nasty, hurtful. When we got back together she was warm, affectionate, kind and loving. That person is now gone.
And she is gone. I think there’s a new guy already.
Can anybody explain?
Do you think her untreated bipolar is to blame for the in-out breakup, impulsiveness and instability?